Saturday, April 11, 2009

65. Love and care for close ones

Many of us keep praying that nothing untoward should happen to our near and dear ones. Our own life does not appear to be as important to us as that of our loved one. We cannot imagine living without those who have been such a big source of joy and strength to us. The mere thought of their leaving us midway through the journey is scary.
We do not have much control over what is going to happen to us or to our loved ones. But at least we can take good care of them as long as we are together. We can let them know in unambiguous terms how much we love them.
Many people keep their love for close ones buried in their hearts. They maintain such a stern exterior that it becomes impossible for anyone to see their softness. Some hesitate to express their feelings for their close ones while some simply expect that their feelings will be understood. There is no shame or weakness in opening up. There is no point in expecting others to understand when direct and effective methods of making one’s feelings known are available.
Many people are not able to take care of their close ones or spend time with them. Either they are too busy with their day-to-day activities or they just neglect this aspect.
When suddenly a loved one departs, they lament that they could never communicate their love to or take required care of or spend enough time with the person. This is specially true about parents or grandparents.
Let us, therefore, spend the best possible time with our close ones as long as we are together. Let us not be miserly in expressing our love and spending time together. Death is ultimately going to bring about separation. The time left is never enough. Let us make the most of it.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

So this one is also on death! Though this time it is about the fear of death of our near and dear ones! This is quite convincing and has a practical advice too. However, there is a suggestion - if you have more stuff to write on death, you should label it as well (like stress management, thoughts, poems etc). Death is a vast subject and can be written upon in a huge manner. Death is really never-dying subject! So keep thinking and writing for your readers' benefit.
Vibhu

Kadri said...

"The time left is never enough.
That is so true.

Being unable to spend much time with my grandmother I often worry about not having said it all and heard it all before it's too late. A year ago I started writing down the stories that she tells me because I can't trust myself to remember them and when she's gone the stories will be gone too. That's what I mourn the most about my grandfather all the knowledge that he had that's gone now.

Aviral said...

very well written post...i know what it feels like to lose a loved one, but i am happy that i was never shy about expressing my love...

Sai Charan said...

Dear Onkarji,

There's a token of friendship waiting for you to pick up over at my blog; come and take it...

humanobserver said...

I can't deny your words. They are absolutely true.

Indrani said...

The time left is never enough!
This line is so true. Touching post, Onkar!