Personal tragedy takes time to sink in. Initially, one does not realise the gravity of the situation. There are so many rituals to perform and so many people around that there is hardly any time to think. It seems as if the departed has gone on a short trip only to return soon.
When rituals come to an end and people stop visiting the bereaved, the extent of loss begins to dawn. One starts experiencing the absence of the departed at the dining table, during the evening walk and so on. When the phone rings, one knows that it can be any one but the departed.
It is at this stage that the bereaved may start slipping into a state of depression. It is now that he needs support to come to terms with the tragedy. It is here that friends and relatives can be of great help and try to fill the void to the extent possible - by just being around or by letting the bereaved ventilate himself.
Unfortunately, at this stage, the bereaved is generally left alone to try and come to terms with his tragedy. Though time can heal deep wounds, some emotional support may often make the process of healing faster. But such are the ways of the society that no help becomes available when it is required the most.