If we fight with someone in our childhood, he is sure to turn into our good friend for the rest of our lives. But once we grow old, the chances of patch-up with someone after a fight are scanty. Bitterness refuses to vanish and the relationship is often beyond repair.
Children are forgiving by nature. If in anger, you beat your child, he will come back to you sooner than you imagine. You don’t even have to say sorry. If a child fights with someone today, he will forget it tomorrow. Not only will he forget, he will compensate for any show of anger on his part with love and friendship. This, perhaps, explains the durable friendship between children who fought bitterly at one point of time.
The process of reconciliation between children is often quite funny. One child will go to the other and frankly say, “let us be friends” and the other will melt. On occasions, common friends will make the two shake hands and a new chapter in friendship will begin. Sometimes, both will want to be friends, but both will hesitate. Common friends will bring the two children face to face. One child will be made to utter the first letter of the other’s name. This will be followed by the other child uttering the first letter of the first child’s name. The first child will then utter the second letter of the second child’s name and the process will continue until the two names are fully pronounced. I remember that in my childhood, which child would begin the process used to be decided through the toss of a coin.
Alas, grownups are different from children. Often, they fight over trivial matters and then carry bitterness through their lives. They cannot forget and forgive. Invariably, they rationalize what they said or did and come to the conclusion that the other person was wrong. They can learn a lot from children.