Sunday, June 20, 2010

91.In praise of fathers

Newspaper supplements today are full of write-ups in praise of fathers.Children have written flattering messages about their fathers on the occasion of the Father’s Day. ‘You are the best dad’,’you are the biggest gift of God to me’, ‘whatever I am today is because of you, dad’… the messages are on predictable lines.I wonder how seriously fathers should take such tempting noises.

Whenever we talk of parental love, we think of the love of the mother for her children. She is the one who willingly suffers all ignominies and deprivations for the sake of her children. She is sacrifice personified. The father, on the other hand, is the one who is more bothered about exercising his authority. While the mother is busy bringing up the children, the father is busy flirting with other women. He parts with a portion of his income and thinks, that is it.He is not willing to compromise on his club visits, his gossip sessions with friends and his other interests even if his children badly require him.

The truth is that fathers love their children as much as mothers.They are equally concerned about the welfare of their children. They are as willing to make sacrifices. They are also human beings.

True, the contribution of mothers is much more valuable than that of fathers.After all, it is they who keep their children in their wombs for nine months.It is they who feed their children during the first few months.The bond is much more intimate - physically and emotionally.If it is a choice between the father and the mother, the mother must have the first right over her children.But the father does not deserve to be regarded as an unconcerned, indifferent stranger- incapable of loving his children and making sacrifices for them.

I am happy that someone thought of celebrating the affection of fathers for their children and set aside a day in the year as the Father’s Day.


R. Ramesh said...

sweet post buddy..felt good when daughter rang up..

Kavita Saharia said...

Now a days when both the parents are working ,we see fathers getting more involved in the upbringing of their children.

As a kid it always amazed me that how almost everything was possible for my dad and how hard he worked for all of us to give us a life full of comforts and happiness.

Like they say...a father is more than a hundred school masters.

The Panorama said...

Yes, it is indeed nice that we celebrate also fathers day. After all, a father is just as important as a mother to a child.

Unknown said...

Nice post. Good when children remember the 'old folks', fathers and mothers alike.

Neena Sharma said...

Absolutely with you that the fathers are often overlooked in favour of mothers. But I hope we don't just write eulogies about our father (or mother) on a particular day and then forget them for the rest of the year.

Deepak Acharya said...

yes, it is a sweet post.